Our life approach needs to have an easy definition of living. The easier the steps, the smooth our lives become to live, to breathe. A generic process can be by eliminating the persons who lie to us, disrespects our cognitive thoughts, uses us for their benefit, or puts us down by their harsh words or by betraying.
Ignore Drama and Hate
When someone creates “the drama” in life, letting go or get rid of them would be the best step forward. Philosophically, the world is a stage, but the dramas which are harmful and unnecessary are not acceptable. Another generic perception, most haters don’t hate us for our progress, they just hate where they are in their lives doing their regular hatred, and we express ourselves being their reflection of what they wish to become. A suggestion would be not to take it negatively. Rather consider being proud of the fact that they want to copy us as we are role models for them. Their activities may hurt us, but our hearts will gradually heal by the flow of time and become capable of feeling the beauty of life once again. It happened to us before, and it will happen again, it needs to be known that life is always changing. It is always necessary to let go which is uncontrollable.
When it is the end of something precious or the departure of someone close, it’s because something else or someone else is about to arrive. Replacement is part of the chemical phenomenon in our lives. The most powerful changes happen in our lives perpetually when we decide to take control of our ability power instead of craving control over everything we don’t. Sometimes the hardest choices require sacrificing the thing considering it to be the greater good.
Most people make themselves unhappy simply by not accepting the reality of life. Life flows as it is. Their perception is not overlooked as we humans are bent to our regularities. Letting go is just realizing that the only thing we really have is ourselves at this moment. Self-care is not selfishness. When there’s a storm, we can’t calm ourselves; it’s not worth trying. Keeping calm at that moment is required to pass the storm. We can always superintend ourselves the way we respond to what happens.
Act of letting go
Sometimes we need the obligatory assistance to wake up from the little heartbreak, we need help letting go, and to denote us that we are worth so much more than we are settling for. The settlement is always better than others and also varies from person to person. Unexpected, undesirable, uncontrollable things will happen. But we can always choose to take the next tiniest step moving forward. We have to be brave to take it. We need to be willing to make mistakes, learn from them, let go of them, and move along.
Be able to Adapt
Our life doesn’t run according to our plans, we have to wrestle and deal with unexpected life circumstances; we thought we had full control over it, but really we didn’t. So what will be our activities combating it?
In the game of life, we all receive a unique set of unexpected limitations, opportunities, and variables in the field of play. The winning probability is 50-50 chance. The set of questions that we set in our minds: How will we respond to the hand we’ve been dealt? We can either focus on the lack thereof or empower ourselves to play the game prudently and resourcefully, making the very best of every outcome as it arises, even when it’s heartbreaking and hard to accept and retaliate.
“Should” vs. “Want”
The best observational stance that follows the mind is our biggest battleground right now. It’s the residence of all the strongest conflicts. It’s where half of the things we thought were going to happen, never will happen. It’s where our expectations of how life ‘should be’ always get the very best version of us. It’s where we fall victim to our cravings to the uncontrollable.
Without a doubt, we are all facing our share of difficult circumstances right now, many of which are not the result of anything we’ve done. But we’ve choices when it comes to how we respond.
And the choices are as simple as they are universal: Firstly to grit our teeth and try to move the immovable object, and become frustrated and bitter when we realize we can’t. Or let it be, let it go, and focus on the little things we actually can accomplish. Our failures denote our future successes.
Be able to Embrace
Paradoxically, the first choice is easier because it’s our default action or defense mechanism. We want full control because feeling out of control is utterly terrifying. But our learning should be let those go, to understand the underlying difference between what we can control and what we can’t.
The empowerment of ourselves to relinquish control is one of the greatest gifts that we can provide to ourselves—the ability to exist amicably and efficiently amidst the chaos of life.
Written by: Abir Sur
Abir Sur is a student of East West University. He is experienced in organizing quite a few socio-cultural activities and has now engaged himself with Gen Lab and is dealing with several SDGs.