Imposter Syndrome is an experience where you doubt your ability, expertise, existence & finally your success. For example, if you have a presentation the next day, for which you have prepared your best and have done excellent work too, you will still be worried and consider your preparation insufficient.
Now, the next day, you gave a brilliant performance & everyone praised you a lot. Though everyone is giving you the credit, you’re not ready to accept it. You’re just giving all credit to your luck.
Imposter syndrome is when you think your hard work has nothing to do with your success. You try hard, give your best, but you just say “I succeed because I was lucky.” As you believe you cannot do anything without your fortune, you think of yourself as less skilled than others. Like you do not belong to the group or you’re not capable enough to be here. In this situation, you’re always afraid of getting caught as a fraud. You grieve anyone at any point can catch you as an imposter in a group of some experts.
Why do a lot of us suffer from Imposter Syndrome?
- A family background where failure is an unaccepted or only success is valued. Kids of these types of families always pressurize themselves to succeed at any cost as all in all.
- Too much competition in family, academic or working place.
- Come to a new place like joining a new job or a new college can trigger imposter syndrome. One might think “how I’ll compete with this brilliant group, I don’t even deserve to be here.”
How to know that you are suffering from Imposter Syndrome
- Self-doubting is the first sign when you have imposter syndrome, like doubt your own success.
- Failing to assay your expertise & skills.
- Giving credit to your luck instead of your hard work.
- Rebuking your performance consistently.
- Setting extremely challenging goals & feeling low after being failed.
What can we try to overcome?
- Learn to pet & love yourself.
- Give yourself a treat even after a minor success.
- Don’t pressurize yourself to get done things perfectly.
- Give yourself a second chance after making a mistake
- Assay your own expertise, skill & ability.
- Stop comparing yourself to others.
- Ignore what people might think about you.
- Stop doubting yourself by saying you don’t belong here.
- Never stop trying no matter how much difficult the situation is.
Written by: Tanzila Tisha